How Many People Have You Slept With??

Ummm yeah…quite a question right?

What would you do when the person that you are dating asks you that dreaded question. Do you lie, tell the truth, deflect or just act like that question was never posed?!


I remember in college we had a seminar on dating and sex. The highlight of that  discussion focused on how many people were TOO many. I couldn’t help but wonder why the majority of the guys stated that 7 was too high of a number.

WTF? You have to be seriously kidding me!!!

Who a woman sleeps with and what she decides to do with her personal time is her business. As long as she is safe and healthy what does it matter?? Is it the ego of a man or  pride that stops them from dealing with such a woman?

Could you pass up a great woman because her number was too high? Where is this hypocritical standard coming from?

Now don’t get me wrong, you shouldn’t be sleeping with every and anything but you shouldn’t be penalized when it comes to love if you choose to do so.

Why is it that guys can sleep with X amount of woman and then have the audacity to utter a number such as 7 or 10? Worse is that woman have also adapted the same mindset and will judge a woman accordingly to her number.

How can a woman be honest and open when she has the fear that she would be judged on what happened in her past?


I really hate this double standard.

Does It Matter How Many Sex Partners A Girl Has?

The guy claimed 150 people…ummm that is a whole LOT of people…for either man or woman. Let’s be honest most people have slept with over 10 people. When you factor in age, the number can increasingly go up.

Now is this something that you discuss with your partner? Is it even worth it? How many of us discuss with our partners their sexual health history? Have you taken out the same amount of energy to figure out if they had ever contracted a sexual disease?  Do we take out the time to sit down and get tested together?

I think that is more important than how many people they penetrated or been penetrated by…. do you agree?


21 thoughts on “How Many People Have You Slept With??

  1. funny enough, I was just thinking about this a ffew hours ago… Is a woman that has slept with 40 men by age (lets say 35) a slut??… Personally anything above 15-20 males by any woman i think might may a lil too many guys… because yea ladies may experiment more when they are first active… but as you enter your mid to late 20s, you should pretty much have settled on one partner right??

    1. What does her number have to do with anything if she is a good person, she is clean and she is interested in you? Do you want a woman to judge you on the number of people you slept with before her? If she is only sleeping with you, doesn’t that matter? Well, hopefully by your mid to late 20’s you should be settled but with instant sex and casual relationships that is not the case. Many people are enjoying the benefits of a relationship without being in one (but that is another story).

  2. For me it depends more on why she was sleeping with these cats. If her number is 70+ but she is a nympho (a real nympho not some chick who claims it after a few drinks) then we may be good to go. If she slept with 70+ but she was doing it for a piece of change or something like that then we’ll have a problem. But regardless this all depends on the other factors. If she sucks at life who cares how many people she has slept with and vice versa. In the end it matters more about how she treats me, how we operate as a partnership, our sexual chemistry, and if we make each other better people.

    1. Thank you…I think that someone past is as important as you make it. If you just want to solely focus on the sexual aspect than fine but if this person is treating you with respect, loves you, is committed than what does it matter?

      1. If you’re focused entirely on the sexual past then you are probably a poor relationship partner anyway so I guess that balances out…

  3. First off… I have never, and will never ask my partner how many people she has slept with before we met cuz it really doesn’t matter. But if that discussion comes up and I find out a number I’m not entire comfortable with, I’m only human to be concerned for my safety right? But that being said, I don’t see it becoming a thorn in our relationship except I may ask that we go test ourselves before moving on…

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  6. For me, it would matter more whether my partner (whether they have had 1 or 100 partners) gets themselves tested consistently. Even for the person who’s only slept with one person, you don’t know who their previous partners and their partners’ partners, etc. statuses are. As long as both are STI/STD free, that’s all that really matters.

  7. Multiplicity of sexual partners (for either male or female), aside from predisposing to STDs, also calls into question one’s self confidence and moral character. Whether we admit it or not, we all make judgments at a subconscious level on matters relating to morality (whatever our definition of it may be).

    When someone you are entering a relationship with, voluntarily admits to you that he/she has had multiple partners before you, he/she is being transparent to you and is saying, “judge me now or accept me as I am”. Your next move will depend on how much you value that relationship and that honesty, and on where you draw the line on such matters.

    If you want to continue, you two have to get medical clearance, and you need to understand the reason – “why so many partners?” If the reason does not align with your moral fiber, then you may respectfully part ways, maintaining the other’s privacy.

    But I truly believe the best place for “sleeping with” anyone is within a marriage relationship. If one can be disciplined enough to curtail the number of “sleeping partners” to as close to zero as possible, while single, then one’s chances of maintaining fidelity when married is much higher than the average…(that is if your goal is to eventually get married) But this is a tall order, in today’s society where it’s no longer cool to be a virgin, unless you are a devout Christian or a devout whatever religion.

  8. I believe it shouldn’t matter what people think of how many people a woman has slept with. From when we are little we are taught that a women is suppose to respect herself, be a “lady”. Well we are also taught that a man and a women are suppose to love each other but looks like times are changing. We all have needs and shouldn’t be discriminated because the way we are brought up. If a woman wants to have sex and not get judge for it then let it be. We all like to have fun. Can’t let man take all of it though.

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